Seeing the knowledge and the lustre of the boys the fathers of the brides were very eager to get their daughters married to these young men. And as it is said, Based on its father a horse should be chosen, based on her mother the girl, based on the grass growing the land and based on its practices a clan. After matching the horoscopes of the girl and boy, Shivahari’s father was able to find the right girl for his Son. Not only was the horoscope matched, also the Gotra – lineage of the girl was well checked, marriage with one who belonged to the same gotra is negated in marriage, because technically they become brother and sister. After that the betrothal which is called nischayatartartha – to fix the girl – betrothal ceremony, was arranged with the girl. And a suitable date for the marriage was fixed, at the earliest date. The marriage ceremony took place for three days. The first day when the marriage party, the grooms family came to the village of the bride, they were received with all due respects.
The day before marriage, the groom was taken on a procession called Kashi yatra, which signifies that the groom because of the seeming dis-passion takes to the path of sanyasa, the fourth ashrama which is monkhood. And now, the brother of the bride Rajeshwari, who too has studied the Vedas came to the groom and promised his sister as kanya dhana, girl given as a gift, and to give-up his kashi yatra. After this there was a ceremony of the meeting of bride and the groom in a temple, this is when Shivahari and Rajeshwari saw each other for the first time.
The next day in the morning at the appropriate auspicious time – muhurta, Rajeshwari was given as the gift by the bride’s father to Shivahari. In the afternoon there was some games arranged according to the tradition, like playing with a coconut, where the coconut was rolled to and fro by the bride and the groom and after some time, they had to do a tug of war for the coconut. In which Rajeshwari after a few seconds without others knowing let go of the coconut, without resistance. This kind of game removes the awkwardness and the un-familiarity between the groom and the bride, who are total strangers until then.
The third day the marriage party, started back to their village. The food they require on the way was cooked and packed by the brides family, who too joined them after some time. In the village the new couples were received with much fanfare, and the reception was organized the very next day, for the elders to bless the couple.